Smiling like Sunshine: Playful Parenting

Friday, 28 January 2011

Playful Parenting

I am reading Playful Parenting by Lawrence J. Cohen right now and it is one of the best parenting books I have ever read. I am not even all the way through it but I love it. It has helped me see lots of things from a different perspective,which I haven't thought of before.
3-4 year olds can be quite stubborn at times. For instance,my daughter is so slow at bed times. Because she doesn't want to go to bed, she gets prepared as slowly as possible. My only aim at that time is to be as quick as possible,because I don't want the baby to get overtired. ( In case you don't know, an overtired baby won't sleep well) I used to dread bedtimes,because I have to tell her for the umpteenth time to be quick. I ask her to stop jumping on the bed and brush her teeth for the 5th time. and I hate myself.
This book tells you to make it playful. If she is not listening to you, instead of yelling or nagging, say something silly,make her laugh and she will cooperate. Instead of raising the tension, say "if you don't come right now, I will pour this glass of water down my head!" This change and the giggles it will bring on, change the child.
He talks about how important it is to get down to the floor and play with them, even if you hate Barbie dolls or action man figures. He talks about how children feel closer to you during play and will more about their feelings and themselves. He talks about how you need to empower girls and connect with boys. He talks about how you can change the guns into love guns, how you can foster closeness while you are playing war games.
Highly recommended.
Have you read this book? If so, I would love to hear your thoughts.

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